In this week’s episode of Freedom Fast Lane, Ryan Daniel Moran talks about who you need to surround yourself with in order to position yourself for success. One of the ways to pack your success is to be very mindful of the company that you keep and who you allow to influence your thoughts. In this podcast, Ryan outlines the four people you must know to ensure your success.
Key Lessons Learned:
- Our brains are only designed to know about 300 people. This means we are influenced by those around us, and as a result it is important to be intentional about who we surround ourselves with.
- Biologically we are wired to think like ‘The Tribe’ (people we are around all the time).
Needs and Desires That Run Our Lives:
- We constantly do every action in order to meet one of the following primary needs.
- Security/ certainty
- Variety/ uncertainty
- Anytime we want to make a change in our lives, it’s because one of our primary needs is not being met.
Person #1 – The Life Partner:
- Needs to be on board with your vision and where you are going.
- If you don’t feel support from your partner, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t a person you should be with.
- Ensure that your partner’s primary needs are being met before you ask for anything else.
- The fastest and easiest way to get significance is cutting someone else down, but you can get significance in other ways such as praise.
- As long as your primal needs are supported, your partner will usually have no problem in where you want to go next.
Person #2 – The Mentor:
- A person who is at least 10 years ahead of where you are and represents where you want to be.
- A mentor is somebody who has gone down the road that you want to go down and can look back and advise on avoiding certain pitfalls.
- The fastest way to get in front of a mentor is to provide value for them.
- The worst way to get a mentor is to blatantly ask (and provide no value).
- Identify which of your success network you have contributed the most value with and nurture that relationship.
- Mentorships are things that take times to develop, and because of this it should stay in place for many years.
Person #3 – The Work Partner:
- This should be someone in the same industry as you and who you see on a regular basis. This person has about the same amount of experience as you and is at the same level.
- The work partner doesn’t have to be someone with equity in your business but rather someone with whom you are on a journey together (similar to a workout buddy).
- You are moving in a specific direction and having a similar experience and sharing notes along the way.
- This doesn’t need to be someone in your company, but someone you share notes with, brainstorm with and someone you work with at times.
- It is helpful to have this person in place as your designated brain storming buddy.
- It is okay to change this partner every year or few years.
Person #4 – Group Think:
- A community that is heading into the direction that you want.
- Masterminds are effective for group think.
- It is vital to go to conferences on whatever topic you are passionate about or moving towards.
- Meet-ups are also another easy way to get in group think.
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