Just like the weather, our lives go through seasons.
We go through spring, when we plant new ideas and prepare to grow. We go through summer, where something new is blossoming, and we celebrate. We experience fall, where we harvest what we have sowed, and we go through winters, when the old dies off and we prepare for the next season.
As I write this, I find myself in winter.
Recently, several business investments have gone awry, some relationships have faded away, and many things that I hoped would happen failed to materialize.
Most notably, I was a finalist to be on Big Brother this year, which is one of my dreams, but I was sadly swapped out for someone else during the final round. If you’re watching it right now, recently-eliminated contestant Nick, the entrepreneur from New York, was chosen over me.
Being that close to my dream and losing it was heart wrenching.
When we are in winter, or when things are just not going according to how we expected, it’s very easy to start beating ourselves up. The brain works in motion, so when things are going well, we tend to see EVERYTHING as wonderful. And when things aren’t going so well, we can easily spiral into depression.
I have created a “depression hack” for that, which I call Success Stacking.
When things don’t go our way, it is common for our brains to sabotage just about everything. Thoughts of inferiority, self doubt, and failure creep in quickly.
For example, when finances go down, it becomes easier to feel inferior, to doubt your ability, and then to RUN to safety. That kills the entrepreneurial spirit, and it makes tackling any new projects or “planting for Spring” seem daunting. Our brains project our current situation into the future, which can really cloud our judgment, especially while growing a business.
That’s why I invented Success Stacking.
Success Stacking is a way to get your brain thinking in positives again, so that you build upon small successes. When you do this, you suddenly have the energy and confidence to start moving again, or “planting for spring.”
This is how Success Stacking works:
– Any time I am in a negative state or pouting about things not going my way (I’m still pouting about not getting on Big Brother, but I’m down to just seven hours of pouting per day), I pull out my trusted journal.
– In a new fresh entry, I list out small things that I can easily do so that I can stack small successes on top of one another. Remember, the brain works in patterns, so if you can simply get “on a roll” in a small way, you will naturally begin to pick up momentum in everything else that you do.
-To make “winning” incredibly easy, my lists are very simple. They have been so simple as getting a haircut, shaving, wearing my best outfit, and working out so that I feel great about myself.
– The next part of my “Success Stack” may be a small work project (but only AFTER I feel great about myself). After the small work project, I may call a friend or a business partner to discuss what can be done to get things rolling.
One of my recent Success Stacks looked like this:
– get a haircut
– have an awesome workout
– write an email to my list
– write a new blog post and share it on Facebook
– create action plan for new product and put the steps on my calendar
By the end of the “stack,” I feel like things are moving again. My brain is thinking positively, and I start to see opportunities all around me.
Tony Robbins argues that happiness comes from GROWTH. When we feel as though we are growing, we feel happy, because we compare where we are now to where we just came from. If there is improvement, then we feel happy. When we are happy, we do better work.
Success breeds success.
This is why Success Stacking is so powerful, because you start to see growth, which makes it easier to grow even more.
So, when should you Success Stack?
Let’s pretend that there is a business venture that you need to invest some time into, but your recent line of failures is making it near impossible for you to drum up the courage to do it. It’s time to write out your list for Success Stacking.
You write down a list of small challenges that you can overcome easily: you have a great workout, finally change the oil in the car, and call your business partner to work out a new plan. And all of a sudden, you’ve had a very productive day, making the next bigger assignments feel not so daunting.
Bonus tip: Put a semi-challenging item at the end of the stack. By the time you finish the others, you’ll have worked up enough momentum to take it on, and then you feel like you can do *anything.*
As days build on each other, you’ll be back in “spring” in no time.
Sometimes I do a round of Success Stacking just to turn my week around. Other times, it’s to get out of winter.
Building success on top of one another gets your brain moving again, it puts you in a positive state, and it can completely change the pattern of your behavior from what that is spiraling out of control, to one that that is positive and full of growth.
Ryan’s motto is “live life to the fullest.” And, he certainly lives up to the challenge. As a freshman at Indiana Wesleyan University, Ryan started a small internet business from his dorm room to help pay his tuition . . . and by the age of 20, he was earning a 6-figure income and other online ventures – all while continuing to study full time. Needless to say, Ryan’s “side business” allowed him to graduate debt free – with a nice chunk of change left over. After college, Ryan expanded his online business and set out to see the world. His next big adventure? Inspiring others to live free lives and create their own destinies . . . just like he had.
With that vision in mind, Ryan created the Freedom Publishing Group LLC, which offers life-changing products in the financial freedom, health and fitness, and self-development spaces. The Freedom Fast Lane is a group of likeminded entrepreneurs who have a passion for sharing their skills to help others succeed in achieving their dreams. Ryan is a world traveler, an avid Cleveland Indians fan, and a big fan of freedom.