In this week’s episode of Freedom Fast Lane Ryan Daniel Moran puts his unique spin on the six human needs as popularized by Tony Robbins. There is a reason behind everything we do, whether it’s conscious or unconscious. This podcast is your opportunity to find out how these needs affect us as people and in business. If you’ve ever wondered what drives your daily life or wanted to change your path, then you need to the listen to this Freedom Fast Lane podcast.
Six Human Needs
1. Certainty – the idea that you know what is going to happen
2. Uncertainty (variety) – the feeling that things are different and new
3. Significance – the feeling of uniqueness or importance
4. Love and Connection – asense of belonging or connectedness to other beings
5. Growth – an improvement over a previous measurement
6. Contribution – improving something outside of yourself
Key Lessons Learned
- Everything we do in life is an attempt to meet one of these six needs
- There are healthy and unhealthy ways to meet all of these needs
- If you get three of the six needs fulfilled from any activity it becomes an addiction
- Most people let certainty and significance drive us (in that order)
- There are things outside your control that will take some of these away from you
- If we lose a primary need we will often resort to an unhealthy way to get the need met
- There are unconscious reasons for all of our behavior
- Certainty is a knowing of what will happen next
- There is a part of our brain that says we have to be ‘safe’ and need to ‘survive’
- Most people would rather be certain than be loved which is why a lot of people stay out of relationships (or stay in a bad one)
- The reason most people don’t take action is because they would have to give up their primary driver (certainty)
- Most people would rather be ‘certain’ than happy
- When you pursue certainty you rarely find it and no level of certainty is ‘enough’
- Take a moment to define what certainty means for you
- Ask yourself “How can I get my certainty without getting stuck?” e.g. put six months of expenses in the bank or develop skills where you know you can always make money
- The feeling that things are different or changing
- The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the level of uncertainty you can comfortably live with
- Certainty is knowing you will be ‘okay’ if it ‘all’ goes away
- You can practice building the ‘muscle’ of uncertainty
- When you get comfortable with uncertainty you start building certainty
- You can become comfortable with things feeling out of control which then becomes certain
- This is the secondary driver for most people
- The feeling of wanting to be unique and important
- This often eludes us when we try to manufacture it
- Most people’s rules of what has to be in place for significance are very high
- We have rules in our brain that define what meets this criteria and we sometimes set the game up to lose
Love and Connection
- Significance and love and connection seem like opposites yet are connected
- When we seek connection we often find significance
- This can be sought in healthy and unhealthy ways
- Connection can stem from faith, friends, family, animals (this is any connection outside of ourselves)
- We want to compare where we are now to where we were before
- An improvement over a previous measurement
- If we want to feel happy then growth is how we get it
- We want to compare where we are now as compared to where we were before to assess progress
- This is improving another person’s life
- Making this your primary focus is rarely a bad idea
- Write down how you are meeting your needs in each of the six areas.
- Why do you do it?
- What are you getting out of it?
- Identify how you are meeting these areas of your life.
- Identify the two that are driving you the most.
- Ask “what can I do differently to meet these needs in more healthy ways?”
- What will my life look like if I can focus on two new areas that are drivers for me e.g. love instead of certainty and significance?
- What would your life be like if you were focusing on variety instead of significance
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Ryan Daniel Moran
Ryan Daniel Moran is one of the most sought after speakers and thought leaders on lifestyle freedom in the world. He specializes in creating extremely profitable cash flow streams and businesses without compromising your lifestyle. Ryan is passionate about inspiring, educating, and empowering people to live extraordinary lives, and he believes that anyone can live the life of their dreams as long as they take responsibility for their results and take consistent action toward getting what they want. When Ryan isn’t inspiring his listeners and readers, you’ll find him at an improv show, a Cleveland Indians game, or traveling the world.